SHARING....

I find it interesting how judgmental people have become over 50 Shades of Gray books. For real? How many books or movies have you read that were not glamorous for one reason or another? For those of you who have "supposedly" not read the book but think it is nothing but trash and filth, let me fill you in: the main character, Christian Grey, is a very wealthy 27 year old billionaire (because a 27 year old billionaire is very real life! ummmm, not) that is a dominant because he is screwed up from having a crack head mom, and his mother's pimp beat him as a child and burned him with cigarette butts. She was dead for 4 days and Christian was left all alone with her body as a young 4 year old boy. Now could you imagine that being your life? Me neither. The story is about making him see that there is life after an emotional death, and that he can have a normal relationship with love and affection and children! Is there sex? Yes. Am I a 31 year old grown, happily married woman who has participated in sex? Why, yes, yes I have. And I have proof: Two children. And no, I did not run out to Hustler and buy them out in whips and chains after reading this. Was that part of the book interesting? Yes. Were the galas and parties and clothes and trips and lavish gifts more interesting? YES. When he told her (Ana) things he has never said to any other women before most interesting? YES. The love that she showed him was incredible. He had never had this even from his own mother. Seriously, I read this book for what it was: a steamy love story. Nothing more.

The last time I checked most stories and movies aren't always pretty. If they were, what would be the plot?  Some examples? Let's begin with the movie "The Town" starring Ben Affleck, the one where they kill people left over right, rob banks, etc. etc. etc, blow peoples heads off.....yes, that one! Next up,  mobster movies-should we go there? Not your genre? How about Sex and the City? If we are talking strictly over the S-E-X, than what about Pride and Prejudice? Pretty Woman? The Tudors? The Notebook? Allie and Noah have sex and they aren't married, while she is engaged to someone else? Remember that part, on the floor in an old house??? Or here is one, The Bachelor?? The Bachelorette? A guy or a girl who goes on "Fantasy Dates" with 4 different women in one night? Yes, they share a room and who knows what they do??? I seriously doubt they sit around "talking" and playing Scrabble....And a WHOLE bunch of you watch it, as in, 25 million each week, (I am not judging, but I am stating facts.) What about The Real Housewives? Or Dance Moms? Or Toddlers and Tiaras? Y'all want me to keep going??? It's all filth and most of us are guilty for watching....me included.

So why am I talking about this? It blows my mind that all of this stuff is thrown at us week after week, on TV and in movies, and even on the radio. But for some reason, these books have caused an uproar of people speaking out. Over having sex? Which most people do daily? And most of the people reading these books are 30 year old mommies. Why? I think it is fun to have a grown up fairytale! Do I expect my husband to do these things to me in real life? No, I don't. I have read all the books, loved them, and I have no plans to become a submissive anytime soon (The word submissive and my name don't even belong in the same sentence together-HA!)...I thought it was a wonderful love story! When they fall in love, it is fun and exciting and it made me reminisce about how great it was when Stephen and I first met and couldn't get enough of each other! Who doesn't love that feeling?!

But guess what? FICTIONAL BOOKS AREN'T REAL!! It is a made up story. Most people I know do not have a private jet, a personal shopper, houses all over the world, a chef, a security team, ETC. I mean, how realistic is it for a normal girl to fall in love with a vampire, become one, and then give birth to its half-vampire baby? Or getting killed in a post-apocalyptic death match for food by a Tracker Jacker? Yeah, I didn't think any of that stuff was very realistic, either. And neither is this book. It. Is. Fiction. Plain and simple.

I am a strong Christian but very real life. I am not perfect and never claimed to be. But Jesus loves me this I know! I am His child. I think it’s worth noting that just because you read the book, it doesn’t mean you are going to do unholy things with your body or with your significant other. You can read it and take the story for a grain of salt – just like any other book. When all is said and done, it’s just a book. The way people choose to react to it is, of course, up to them and will say a lot about their character. I think it is sinful to judge others for choosing to read these books! Personally, I am confident enough in my beliefs and Christianity to not be “affected” by the book the way others (who haven't even read it) claim to be.

xx-KJ